In those 10 days, G had nightmares, peed the bed, G cried all day, didn’t want to eat, and got suspended from school because some boy said something similar to J, so G punched him in the nose. In our school district, when a student has a mental break like what G had, the the student is suspended and they need to see a mental health professional before coming back to school. I absolutely love our school district, because they have been so patient with G’s mental health through our roller coaster year. I remember when I got that phone call from the principal of G’s school, informing me of what happened. I was informed to go to the school counselors office, I still didn’t know what was going on with G’s. When I walked into the school office, I was escorted to the counselors room, G was sitting in a chair, just sobbing uncontrollable. G couldn’t talk, the absolute fear of everything made her shut down. The counselor pulled me out into the hallway, this school counselor has been working with elementary school age children for decades. The counselor told me what she thought G was assaulted. During this time, I was so focus on G; reassuring G that she was not in trouble.
I made an appointment with Dr. B a child psychologist on Ft. Jackson, but G kept getting worse with fear and anxiety. G and J shared the same child psychologist, I would learn later that anything associated with J brought extreme about of stress to G. I canceled G’s appointment, and set G up with appointment with Dr. L, my psychologist. We had a few days before the appointment, all I wanted to do was take away all of G’s fear, anxiety, and despair.
The time came when G would meet my therapist; G was so petrified with fear. As we headed to Dr. L’s room, G just squeezed both mine and her fathers hand. We all walked into the room, G took a seat and Dr. L was beside her, reassuring everything was ok. I was on one side, and her father was on the other side. G started weeping uncontrollably, and out she told her secret. Everyone in the room started crying, the words that came out and she felt a relief.
As G finally told her secret, my heart dropped. G’s father and I just hugged her and told her everything would be fine and she will be safe. Dr. L went to go get Dr. P-C, she’s the director of her clinic and also a forensic psychologist. We set up an appointment for the next day with Dr. P-C. G’s father And I self reported to the SC state abuse hotline, which the operator advised us to go to the local hospital. We took G down to Prisma Health Children’s Hospital; the check-in administrator put G under anonymous for her privacy. A female nurse took us to a private room, where we explain everything to a female doctor.
As we were sitting in the room, all I felt was guilt. I just thought to myself, here I brought the child into my home, hoping to make a difference. We were always cautious because the was no reporting on sexual abuse from foster care on J and S; J was never allowed to play with the girls with doors shut, never alone, and always a watchful eye. When you decided to adopt from foster care, you go through different training and classes; you hear stories, and you are told to take precautions. We did this! But, I never fathom what J did, where J raped G, and at his age.
The time went by slowly, we had to wait for a sexual assault victim advocacy nurse, she had to drive from Raleigh, N. C. Yep, about a 3 1/2 hour drive and female. A female therapist, female ER doctor, female SAVA nurse. Well, some time went by, the SAVA nurse said since G’s rape was over 6 months ago, checking G would retraumatize her. Rape needs to be a very sensitive in gathering the facts, evidence, and who interacts with the victim. CID has dropped the ball when it comes to all sexual assault cases; in reality, CID should never investigate any sexual assault cases. Personally what we’ve encountered on being falsely accused and a rape in our family, their needs to be an independent investigation outside the military handle all sexual assault cases. In G's case everyone was being sensitive to this case from the beginning, starting with the counselor at G’s school, Dr. L and Dr. P-C, the ER doctor, and the SAVA nurse. But things went down hill after that, when I saw #CID #SA W outside G’s door, I lost it.
I can’t believe this male CID SA out of Ft. Jackson showed up! The same CID SA that caused so much psychological trauma on 1 November 2016 to my oldest daughter B. This CID SA had some balls on him, thinking I would just be fine with him showing up. My face turned red, gave him some choice words, I was not holding nothing back. You see, our last name is very uncommon, it’s a dying last name, we are the only family with our last name that is active duty throughout the Army; CID SA W from Ft. Jackson knew exactly what he was doing, so did his chain of command.
So after CID SA W left, we waited for about 20 minutes; it’s for his own safety from me. Nothing is worst than a CID SA who psychologically tries to play mind games, to any teen and young per-adolescent girl, this is a form of abuse of power. CID agents are bullies with badges. G’s case should be handle over to the state, so G can get some form of justice, and J gets the intense help that he needs. G's raped happened on federal property, military installing; but I'm not asking for a UCMJ, because this is not a UCMJ case when two minors are not military personnel. I just want G's case to be handed off to the state, DJJ preferably. CID can hand of the case. Honestly, I don’t know if any treatment will help him. I’m still writing a blog on J’s behavior with DTD/RAD, and the struggle for treatment.
B is working on her blog about Ft. Jackson’s CID SA W, CID SA T, and Chief S. Right now, she’s busy with her pre-vet studies and Cheer at the college she attends; so be patient because once you read her blog on how CID treated "a teen sexual assault victim" you’ll understand why I’m upset.
G will always be the bravest young girl I know! I draw my strength and courage from G, this why I'm fight so hard for her, and even J. I've been communicating with a SC US Senator, which had been helpful. I've learned now that there was a section added to the National Defense Authorization Act; FY19 NDAA Section 1089. I'm reaching out to different organizations for help as well; if G's raped happened anywhere outside a military installation, G would have closure and J would get help that he needs.
