February

 February my mind was just trying to come around to the fact that; fight to keep one child completing safe and trying to get proper treatment will be surreal. One child will be safe, and the other children will fall again through the cracks of a broken system that HHS can't even comprehend traumatized children. For me, this is a pandemic we can't ignore. Covid-19 has nothing on traumatized children, and how their brains are rewired; our society is paying the ultimate price. PRTF's are filling up with traumatized children, more than half are filled by foster or adoptive homes; social workers are so uneducated in RAD, DTD, and Sexual behaviors in Juveniles. Many therapists are uneducated in traumatized children, social workers need to do their internship at a PRTF for at least 12 months, before getting their license before working with children.

Janurary

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January 26th we won our court battle with SC DSS for refusing to pick up adopted son from a PRFT that specializes in Juvenile Sexual Predators, but he refused treatment and was kicked out of his program; which resulted in abandonment charges. Our case went on for almost 2 years because of Covid-19. 

The state has custody of our adopted son, but we still have our parental rights with SC DSS. Currently our adopted son is in DJJ, because of his behavior.

We have moved.....

 G is doing better knowing that she is 1,400 miles away from J. Honestly, I can't blame her, who would want to live in the same state with the rapist that took her innocence. G is still in therapy, not so much about her rape; it's more about keeping mentally fit for every stage in her life. I'm so proud of her wanting to continue therapy. You can find us on FaceBook and TicTok; Facebook pages Their Innocence Lost and my daughter runs Sibling Sexual Abuse Awareness, and we have a TicTok account their_innocence_lost. We also have a website as well:   https://www.theirinnocencelost.org

I'm back!

 I'm back! It's been very rough year and half for all of us. J was kicked out of his PRFT from the sexual predator program, we have been battling SC DSS over how to handle J. We did an Emergency Placement Custody for J back in Sept. 2020, J was suppose to go to another PRTF with a sexual predator program, but instead of sexual predator program, it was a regular PRTF. SC DSS sent J too; like, WFT! This is why our foster care system is so fucked up. And on top of that, SC DSS charged us with Mental Injury because G didn't want him back into the home; and J needed so much help. 

Fast forward, we are still battling SC DSS. Yes, still battling DSS. Do you know the pedophilia can start as early as 13 years of age? These juveniles with sexual predator behaviors need help when they're young, not as an adult. We are still in debt with attorney fees. Sibling Sexual Abuse is family violence and all states seems to care less about this issue. We all should be worried; not just about adults but juveniles too.

I’m so fucking tired of fighting....

I’m so fucking tired, mentally and physically! Fighting to make sure G stays safe, J gets proper treatment and to understand how he violated G in the most horrific way, and S gets into a group home, trauma bond with J has caused great distress and distorted thinking for her; for siblings severe mental illness often bond to one another, the abuse and neglect forms the trauma bond. When your brother/sister constantly makes you fear for your own life or the life of your parents because they are Schizophrenic, Reactive Attachment, or severely ODD, you learn to live in survival, this becomes normal to siblings, they learn to survive. And when the chaos is no longer there, their world and reality gets turned upside down. 

When J was at TRM, I fought hard to get an evaluation done for him, when we found out about G's rape. J has so many different mental and behavioral health issues, that he has the alphabet soup of diagnosis, trauma is early childhood does that....here is part of J's evaluation, the most important part! NHC has a reputation of helping adolescences like J. J is going to be a hard case for anyone that takes him in. I don't know what the future J will have, I'm trying to get the help that he needs; his behaviors are scary, because he's 15, his brain is still developing.  

So, I got J into NHC. I have J's monthly reports; he would walk around saying." masturbation is good for you, asked two staff members to get into the closet so he can watch them fuck, makes inappropriate remarks to female peers and female staff, and he was caught watching porn on the classroom computer."  J's aggression never got better, either; he would destroy property, he escaped NHC twice.  

J was kicked out of NHC from the sexual predator program because of his aggressive behavior towards staff and peers; and prior to NHC, J was at TRM. 2 PRFT’s in nearly 3 years and J still hasn’t improved at all; intense 24 hour of care, family therapy, individual therapy, group therapy, recreational therapy, and school. J refuses to participate in most of the therapies; J don’t like the word no and he will do as he pleases. This is the actually normal with children that have had early childhood trauma, of course, DHHS dirty little secret because they've known for years that putting children with love and stable homes don't help. LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH!

When we found out about G's violent rape by J, we did everything right by the book, but CID at Ft. Jackson SC and the AUSA will not turn this over to S.C. DJJ. Instead we had to hire a lawyer, just to keep G safe; lawyers cost money we don't have. Even today, I can't wrap my head around what CID did; first, CID SA Williams showing up to the Children's Hospital, especially after what he did to B. Secondly, CID purposely said I didn't want help.  I didn't want CID SA Williams or any male CID agent, I requested a female CID agent. Lastly, CID SA Williams reported to SCDSS that we still were living on Ft. Jackson, and J was living with us. We actually bought a home and living in Kershaw County, SC and J was at TRM, when we self reported to the stat abuse hotline. CID SA Williams is so corrupt, he can go fuck himself! 

The incompetence of Ft. Jackson, SC CID, we have to fight our hardest to keep G safe. We've been on this rollercoaster ride of hell, because DoD, DoJ, AUSA, CID didn't transfer the case to the local authorities. 

Here are two articles that people should read, and it explains the shit show that we're are going through. If you read this, please share and keep sharing. I wrote to 7 Senators and all SC US Representatives  with documentation and letters.

https://www.militarytimes.com/news/your-military/2018/05/07/child-on-child-sexual-assault-problem-at-bases-worse-than-previously-reported-military-officials-disclose/

https://www.militarytimes.com/news/your-military/2020/02/12/military-still-struggles-to-handle-kid-on-kid-sex-assaults/

What lies ahead...

It’s been rough the last few weeks; COVID 19 and my adopted son J was kicked out of his PRFT’s. Finding another PRTF for sexual predators is not easy, so we are looking. We gone to family court, our lawyer fees are in the thousands; and fighting to insure G's is safe, and J gets proper treatment.

Our future is unknown; never know what DSS or Family Court will do.

We have marched into our second year! Oh, still nothing has been done!

April is here, and we are pretty much into our second year on nothing. Honesty, though, it’s exactly what I want expected from BIG GOVERNMENT. At the end of the day, Americans population is around or about 350 million people, that my friend is a lot. so we don't matter, really. 

But common sense from our local, state, or federal elected officials; while so many make policies that changes our lives, but does little to nothing in their lives. Common sense would’ve directed this case to be handed over to the state since we are stationed at Ft. Jackson, SC; you know since civilians and dependents don’t fall under UCMJ. I kind of knew this way back when my husband joined the Army, way back in the day. Chief S. had to explain this to me, even know I knew and understand UCMJ for civilian and dependents.  So logically, D.J.J should have step in for G’s case, but no; CID report to SC D.S.S. Why CID reported to D.S.S is for another blog; just waiting on my case file to write about it, but this coronavirus as slowed this process down. 

I can’t say it enough, CID is incompetent and inadequate, and should not participate in forensic interviewing of any kind; I mean, look at their record with soldiers who has/had been sexually assaulted. Children and adolescents need to be protected from CID. CID can be involved with other military crimes, but not anything with sex crimes. Corruption and bad leadership, makes the worst kind of CID investigators; and there way too many corrupt investigators. 

The sheer lack of integrity is gross misconduct on CID, JAG, DoD. I'm glad have attorney to help us through this custerfuck of a mess that DoD and DoJ put us in. It crazy to even think that, if G was raped outside a military installation, J would be getting mental and behavioral help that he needs, and understanding that there are consequences to rape. As of now, J is currently at a PRTF here in South Carolina for adolescents who have "sexual behavioral problems" juvenile sex predators. J has been in two different PRTF's; his first PRTF was for his aggression, second PRTF was for sexual behavioral problems. J behavior hasn't changed, still has a lot of aggression issues and sexual behavioral problems. Therapy doesn't work, medication does not work; almost 3 years of PRTF's and we haven't reached his goals. Technology, his biological parents fucked him up and his biological sister; and TX DCFS screwed the pooch too. So while I'm making sure that G (my bio daughter) stays safe; I'm making share the J and S mental and behavioral health is provided for; I have to advocate because no one else will.